To the Editor:
If you know me in person, you will know me to be passionate, funny, flexible and at times, outspoken. If you know me online, I’d venture I am just about the same. Sometimes, online, as in life, we disagree.
If you know me online or IRL, you will also know it takes A LOT to get me riled up. I am much like that duck paddling along letting the water bead off her back. I see stuff I disagree w all the time and I let it go in favor of low blood pressure and a peaceful night.
HOWEVER! More than any issue, it seems folks need a lesson on how to disagree respectfully. Now I am not claiming to have never have wanted to low blow, but people, there is A PROPER WAY TO DISAGREE.
The rule is as such: as soon as you make a personal attack on a person’s character YOU LOSE THE ARGUMENT. NO MATTER THE POINT.
I will paraphrase one edu-celebrity (I have the exact tweet but no need to put it all out on the table) “Heidi, you seem like a really unhappy person because you questioned my super fun leprechaun lesson”, yes she actually called me unhappy and has never bothered to apologize. Another: “Heidi, take it down a notch, you seem wound a little tight- I’m a mother and I know- let’s not be so serious.” Believe me Moms and edu-celebrities, MY NOTCH IS DOWN. But of this I AM SERIOUS- YOU LOSE WHEN YOU CALL NAMES.
Especially when they are completely the wrong ones. I always look forward to passionate discussions and have a deep appreciation of folks who navigate rough waters so well. I’m certainly no diplomat or immune to a good blood boil, but friends, I will never call you unhappy.